So often with car clubs or friends I know, if a couple has two cars, they don’t want to take both. If it’s his car he drives. If they go in her car – err, he drives.
One lady sighed as she said, he’d always take her car for a spin just before a rally and would decide there might be something slightly amiss, so he’d better drive ‘this time’, or every time. It broke my heart when a good friend of mine who always looked forward to an annual trip to the winding roads of Wales in her MX-5 got a new boyfriend. That year he drove. Then they broke up.
If you talk to the men at car events, they say – "Oh my wife doesn’t like to drive". I always think no, she doesn't like driving with you. I remember a Guild of Motoring Writers event where they were discussing how to encourage more female writers. I asked how many women drove on this event? The answer was one – me (driving my husband's lovely Sunbeam Tiger).
If you want more female motoring writers – and confident female drivers – you simply need more women at the wheel, and when they drive it needs to be normal, unquestioned, and they don’t feel their every move is being watched.
One young girl I know always asks loudly “Why is Mummy driving?” if she does when a perfectly good Daddy is available. Daddy is a better driver, she says. Have either of them had an accident? No.
So here’s an appeal to the men – let her drive, or better than that, insist she drives, and leave her to it. Don’t suggest she could change up now or turn the lights on now. That reveals that you’re watching, judging and consider your own driving superior. Guess what – you might not be as great as you think.
And here’s an appeal to the women – if it’s your car, grab the keys, get in and drive. You may already be a better driver, but as more and more surveys in the workplace reveal, women are always more likely to question their ability while men are more likely to be over-confident about their abilities. The more you drive, the more confident you will feel and the more you will enjoy it.